Creating a Parenting Plan That Works: Tips for Long-Term Co-Parenting Success

When parents go through a divorce, one of the main concerns is, “How can we make this work for our child?” It can be hard transitioning from being partners to co-parents. Emotions can run high, and things like who picks up the children from school or how holidays will be shared can easily spark conflicts. That is where a solid parenting plan comes into play. A well-crafted parenting plan can help make co-parenting a success. A strong parenting plan serves as a guide that keeps both parents on track when emotions run high or when unexpected changes happen.

At The Loris Law Group, we understand the importance of getting it right from the onset. We have seen first-hand the consequences of poorly written or vague parenting plans. 

What is a Parenting Plan?

In Florida, when parents with minor children get a divorce, they must have a parenting plan. A parenting plan is a vital legal document that outlines how parents will share time and responsibilities for their child. Florida law refers to this as “timesharing and parental responsibility,” rather than “custody,” as other states do.

Florida law requires a parenting plan to include the following information at a minimum;

• How parents will divide and manage the daily responsibilities involved in raising their child

  
  

• Who will make decisions regarding the child’s education, healthcare, and extracurricular

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• The timesharing schedule

  
  

• How the parents will communicate about the child

  
  

While the court must approve the plan, Florida law encourages parents to create it themselves whenever possible. If you and your child’s other parent work together on a parent plan, you are more likely to stick to it and maintain a cooperative relationship.

The Child’s Best Interests Take Priority

In Florida, the law requires that child-related decisions be made according to the child’s best interests. This means that when creating your parenting plan, every decision you make should focus on what is in the best interest of your child. Once you submit your plan to the court, a judge will use the best interests of the child standard to assess and decide whether to approve it.

Some of the factors Florida family courts consider when determining what is in the best interest of a child include;

• The child’s age, health, and emotional needs

  
  

• The parents’ willingness to encourage a positive relationship between the child and the other parent

  
  

• Each parent’s ability to create a stable and loving home

  
  

• Each parent’s physical and mental health, and how it may impact their ability to care for the child

  
  

• The child’s preference, if they are of sufficient age and maturity

  
  

• The child’s emotional ties

  
  

• Any history of child abuse, domestic violence, or child abandonment

  
  

A skilled Florida family law attorney can help you understand more about the best interests of the child standard.

Communication is Vital

Disagreements are expected between divorced parents. However, how you and your co-parent handle disagreements is very important. One of the main reasons parenting plans fall apart is poor communication between parents. For this reason, consider including communication guidelines in your parenting plan.

Some communication terms you can consider adding to your parenting plan include;

• Preferred method of communication (email, text, phone call, or parenting app)

  
  

• Frequency of updates

  
  

• Conflict resolution process

  
  

• How emergencies will be handled

  
  

Respectful communication is one of the secrets to successful co-parenting.

Avoid Vague Language

You may be thinking about keeping things flexible by including open-ended statements in your parenting plan, such as “reasonable visitation” or alternate weekends.” However, such language leaves room for misinterpretation. Instead of using such statements, use specific language. For instance, specify which parent the child will spend time with during different holidays, such as Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s.

Remain Flexible

However, while you must ensure that your parenting plan is not vague, it is equally important to remain flexible. You are bound to encounter unexpected changes. For example, you or the other parent might get a new job opportunity. Your plan should allow for reasonable adjustments when such changes happen, as long as both parents agree.

Another tip related to staying flexible is anticipating the future. Your parenting plan should anticipate future transitions. For example, how will your plan adapt when your child joins middle or high school? Anticipating such changes is not only helpful for reducing stress later, but it can also show the court that you’re focused on the long-term well-being of your child.

Keep the Plan Up to Date

As time goes on, you might need to adjust your parenting plan. For example, one parent might relocate, or your child’s school schedule might change. Fortunately, in Florida, you can request modifications when there is a substantial and material change in circumstances.

However, following the enactment of CS/HB 1301, Florida law no longer requires parents to prove that the change was unanticipated to get a modification. You only need to show that the change is substantial and material. This means it is now easier to update parenting plans when circumstances change.

If your parenting plan no longer works, our skilled Florida family law attorneys at The Loris Law Group can help you navigate the modification process efficiently. We can ensure that the new agreement continues to prioritize your child’s best interests.

We are Here to Help

Even if your divorce is amicable, creating a parenting plan without an attorney’s help is not advisable. A skilled Florida family law attorney can ensure your plan meets all legal requirements and addresses potential future issues. At the Loris Law Group, our experienced family law attorneys can;

• Explain Florida’s parenting plan laws and how they apply to your case

  
  

• Help ensure your plan is clear and does not leave room for misinterpretation

  
  

• Guide you through negotiation, mediation, and court approval

  
  

• Help you anticipate challenges and create flexible solutions

  
  

We can also help with modification if your current parenting plan no longer works. Our goal is to ensure that your plan fits your family’s unique needs, promotes cooperation, protects your rights, and supports your child’s future. Contact us today to schedule a consultation.